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Should I use "you and me" or "you and I"?

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Should I use you and me or you and I? — Markuitar, United States
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Whether to use I or me depends on whether the phrase is the subject of the sentence or the object of the sentence. I is a subject pronoun, and the subject is the person or thing doing the action as in "I went to the store." Me is an object pronoun, and the object is the person or thing the action happens to as in "Alex liked me." Use you and I when it is the subject of the sentence; use you and me when it is the object of the sentence. Here are some example sentences with you and I as the subject, doing the action:

 

  • You and I are going to be late.
  • You and I walked along the road.
  • You and I watched the dancers on stage.
  • You and I liked them.

 

In the sentences above, you and I are the people doing the actions. Here are some example sentences with you and me as the object, receiving the action:

 

  • Harold watched you and me.
  • They sent you and me a package.
  • The sun was shining on you and me.
  • The kids gave the books to you and me.

 

 

The rules above are what you should use in formal writing, but they are often broken in speech. Some people think you and I is more formal or educated sounding and you and me is more conversational or casual, so it's not unusual to hear someone say "He gave it to you and I" if they are trying to sound very formal, or "You and me should go to the store" if they are speaking very casually.

 

I hope this helps.

 

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