Sigrid Nunez (born 1951, New York City, New York, U.S.) is an American novelist and writer known for her spare, witty prose and oblique approach to existential themes of loneliness, mortality, and grief. Among her notable works is the novel The Friend (2018), which won the National Book Award.
Born to a Chinese Panamanian father and a German mother, Nunez was the youngest of three daughters. Her father served in the U.S. military during World War II and met and married her mother in Germany at the end of the war. Nunez was raised in public housing in Brooklyn and Staten Island. She has described her cultural upbringing as primarily German, though her mother never taught her the language. Nunez saw little of her father, who worked long hours at various Chinese restaurants.
As a child, Nunez developed an interest in stories and writing. She attended Barnard College on scholarship, receiving her B.A. in English in 1972, followed by an M.F.A. from Columbia University in 1975. At Barnard she studied creative writing under novelist and literary critic Elizabeth Hardwick, who was a harsh judge of Nunez’s early work but provided her with valuable insight. “[T]hat’s why I kept coming back to her,” Nunez told The New York Times in 2023. “And…by the time I left, she had a kind of grudging sense that I just might go on with this business because I seemed to be determined to learn something.”
Hardwick helped Nunez secure a position as an editorial assistant at The New York Review of Books, where Nunez forged formative relationships with members of New York’s literary community, including writer Susan Sontag, who became her mentor. Nunez eventually began dating Sontag’s son, David Rieff, and she shared a home with him and his mother. She considered Sontag a crucial figure for her development as a writer, observing in an interview in 2020 with National Public Radio, “the way I write, the way I think, my attitude towards what it’s like to be a writer, all of this was influenced heavily by the time that I knew Susan Sontag.” Her close yet contentious relationship with Sontag is recounted in the memoir Sempre Susan (2011).
Nunez published her first short stories in literary magazines in the 1980s and began writing books relatively late for a novelist, when she was in her 40s. Throughout her career, she has experimented with an eclectic range of literary subject matter. Her parents’ strained marriage and experience of alienation as immigrants in the United States formed the basis of her first novel, A Feather on the Breath of God (1995). Her second novel, Naked Sleeper (1996), presents a character study of a woman reevaluating her relationship with her deceased father and upending her marriage through an impulsive affair. Mitz: The Marmoset of Bloomsbury (1998) is a whimsical biography of a pet monkey owned by English novelist Virginia Woolf and her husband, publisher and author Leonard Woolf. It was the first of many works by Nunez to feature an animal as a primary character.
Nunez’s next three novels examined individual responses to moments of broader social upheaval. For Rouenna (2001) explores the friendship between a novelist and a former military nurse who served in the Vietnam War. The Last of Her Kind (2006) centers on the relationship between two women who meet as roommates at Barnard College in the 1960s and follow widely divergent life paths in response to the leftist counterculture in which they were immersed as students. Salvation City (2010) enters the realm of speculative fiction, following an orphaned teenage boy who suffers the consequences of familial loss during a devastating flu pandemic.
“It’s true that I tend to write my central characters as people with whom I closely identify—people who observe, reflect, quote other writers and discuss things—but everything else? All made up.” —Sigrid Nunez, in an interview with The Independent, 2024
With the publication of her seventh novel, the bestseller The Friend, Nunez received widespread recognition. Its story centers on an unnamed narrator who takes custody of the harlequin Great Dane of her former teacher and best friend following his unexpected death by suicide. A meditation on mourning and mentorship, the book also explores the ethics of writing and teacher-student relationships. Along with winning the 2018 National Book Award, The Friend was a finalist for the Simpson/Joyce Carol Oates Prize and was named by many critics as among the best books of 2018. The novel was adapted in a 2024 film starring Naomi Watts.
Nunez returned to themes of suicide, ethics, and friendship in What Are You Going Through (2020). The book focuses on a narrator who helps a friend, a writer who is dying of cancer, terminate her own life. She followed this work with The Vulnerables (2023), which examines the cross-generational relationship between two strangers brought together by a gig pet-sitting a macaw during the early months of the COVID-19 pandemic. All three of these novels are narrated by writer characters who closely resemble Nunez, though she has stressed that they depict wholly invented scenarios.
Nunez has also published essays and reviews in publications such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Harper’s, The New York Review of Books, and The New Yorker. Nunez’s work has also appeared in anthologies of Asian American literature and in The Best American Essays and The Best American Short Stories.
In addition to her writing career, Nunez has taught at a number of colleges and universities, including Columbia, Princeton, and The New School, and has been a visiting writer or writer-in-residence at several others. She is a member of the American Academy of Arts and Letters. Her honors include the Rome Prize in Literature, a Whiting Award, a Berlin Prize Fellowship, and a Guggenheim fellowship.