Suzanne Lilar (born May 21, 1901, Ghent, Belgium—died December 11, 1992, Brussels) was a Belgian essayist, novelist, and playwright, the mother of the novelist Françoise Mallet-Joris. Applying a strong intellect to her work through precise language, she was a thoroughly modern writer who nonetheless remained highly versed in many areas of traditional thought.
Lilar was of Flemish origins. She began her career as a playwright with Le Burlador (1945; The Burlador), a reworking of the Don Juan myth from the female perspective. She produced two more plays—Tous les chemins mènent au ciel (1947; “All Roads Lead to Heaven”), a theological drama set in a 14th-century convent, and Le Roi lépreux (1951; “The Leper King”), a neo-Pirandellian play about the Crusades—before she abandoned the theatre to concentrate on the essay.
Her earliest essays are on the subject of the theatre. Soixante ans de théâtre belge (1952), originally published in New York in 1950 as The Belgian Theater since 1890, emphasizes the importance of a Flemish tradition. She followed this with Journal de l’analogiste (1954; “Diary of the Analogist”), which explores the poetic imagination from a Neoclassical perspective, and the brilliant short essay “Théâtre et mythomanie” (1958; “Theatre and Mythomania”). Le Couple (1963; Aspects of Love in Western Society), perhaps her best work, is a neoplatonic idealization of love filtered through personal experience; in the same vein she later wrote highly critical essays on Jean-Paul Sartre (À propos de Sartre et de l’amour, 1967; “About Sartre and About Love”) and Simone de Beauvoir (Le Malentendu du “Deuxième Sexe,” 1969; “The Misunderstanding of the ‘Second Sex’ ”).
In addition to her critical essays, Lilar wrote two autobiographical books, Une Enfance gantoise (1976; “A Ghent Childhood”) and À la recherche d’une enfance (1979; “In Search of a Childhood”), and two novels, both of which date from 1960—Le Divertissement portugais (“The Portuguese Divertissement”) and La Confession anonyme (“The Anonymous Confession”), an intense examination of a tortured relationship between a young Belgian woman and her Italian lover. The Belgian director André Delvaux filmed this novel as Benvenuta in 1983.