Family and kinship relations
Within the local band, the two- or three-generation family of husband, wife, children—frequently including adopted children—and (in some cases) dependent elders constituted the traditional unit of economic activity and emotional security. The intense importance of the family, especially during childhood, is revealed in folklore about the unhappy lot of cruelly treated orphans; children with neither parents nor grandparents suffered the worst.
Kinship in the Subarctic traditionally included some categories that are common in traditional cultures but less commonly observed in the 21st century. Parallel cousins, the children of one’s mother’s sisters or father’s brothers, were usually called by the same kinship term as one’s siblings and treated as such. In contrast, cross-cousins, the children of one’s father’s sisters or mother’s brothers, were often seen as the best pool from which to draw a mate. Northern peoples held strong prohibitions against incest, which was traditionally defined as sexual contact between siblings (including parallel cousins), between parents and children, and between adjacent generations of in-laws (e.g., mothers-in-law and sons-in-law, fathers-in-law and daughters-in-law).
Kin relations among Subarctic peoples often involved a sort of emotional division of labour: supportive, teasing, or joking relationships occurred with one group of relatives, while authoritative, circumspect, or avoidance relationships were the norm with another group of kin. In many cases, and probably in support of the incest prohibition, the appropriate form of interaction was based on generational proximity: grandparents and grandchildren would tease, joke, hug, and cuddle, while interaction between adjacent generations (parent-child, sibling-sibling, parents-in-law and children-in-law) would be more reserved. In other cases the relationships were based on lineage; casual interactions tended to be more common with relatives from the mother’s line and avoidance relations more common with those from the father’s line. Some groups combined both generational and lineal forms.
In following these customs, siblings of the opposite sex who had reached puberty generally conducted themselves circumspectly in each other’s presence and even tended to practice polite avoidance, as did fathers and their grown daughters. Ceremonial avoidance also governed the relationship of a man and his mother-in-law, contrasting with the camaraderie linking brothers-in-law, which was one of the warmest of all relationships between grown men. Among the Kaska, for instance, a group that could joke freely, and even engage in sexual ribaldry, comprised a woman, her husband’s brother, and her sister’s husband (or alternatively, a man, his wife’s sister, and his brother’s wife).
Marriages in the Subarctic were traditionally founded upon an agreement between the parents of a potential bride and groom; the preferences of those to wed were taken into account, but obedience to parental choices was expected. The value placed on both women’s and men’s contributions in the difficult environment meant that a marriage usually entailed one of two kinds of social and economic exchange. Most typically, the groom would provide services to the bride’s family for a period of time; the couple’s residence with the wife’s family provided emotional support as well as time to evaluate the husband’s hunting prowess and ensured the wife’s female kin were available to assist her in at least her first pregnancy and childbirth. Less often, two young women would exchange places, with a daughter from each family becoming daughter-in-law to the other family.
Although households were primarily monogamous, some marriages included one husband shared by two wives. This could happen, for example, when a man engaged in the levirate, a custom in which he espoused his dead brother’s widow and took on the responsibility of providing for her and her children.
Socialization of children
Traditional Subarctic cultures included a variety of pregnancy taboos and postnatal observances to ensure the well-being of mother and child. Birth took place at home, in a special birth structure or, according to early travelers among neighbouring Mi’kmaq, in the woods. One or more knowledgeable women assisted the mother in giving birth and in caring for the delivered child. Swaddled babies were diapered with moss and carried on the mother’s back in an ornamented skin bag or a cradleboard.
Family members and other relatives played the major role in the informal process of childhood education. A child had considerable scope to learn through copying others. Thus, a Kaska parent might say “Make tea!” and a small girl would try to reconstruct what she had often observed her mother and older sisters doing but what she had never been formally instructed to do. Parents did not neglect disciplining and even chastising a disobedient child for such offenses as stealing and rebelliousness. More important for the formation of personalities is the fact that parental treatment subtly but firmly encouraged children to become independent and self-reliant.
Several “firsts,” including the first tooth, the first game killed by a boy, and a girl’s first menstruation (menarche), were ceremonially recognized, sometimes by a small feast. Menarche was recognized by an elaborate series of ritual observances that were undertaken to protect the girl and her family from the powerful forces that were effecting the changes in her body. Athabaskan peoples paid the greatest ritual attention to menarche, with Gwich’in girls moving to a special shelter constructed some distance from the family camp and staying there for up to a year. At the menarche camp a girl wore a pointed hood that caused her to look down toward the ground. Other ceremonial precautions included a rattle of bone that was supposed to prevent her from hearing anything, a special stick to use if she wanted to scratch her head, and a special cup that should not touch her lips. Subsequent menstruation involved only a short period of seclusion.